Hi. I'm so glad you're here.
I'm Lisa Hatlestad. I'm a Life and Weight Coach. I'm currently coaching to become certified by The Life Coach School (c). I'm coaching for free during my certification period through November 2017. Interested? Click Here.
Once I'm certified, my focus will be to help women who lost their mother in childhood or grew up unmothered end the bitterness, insecurity and shame that casts a shadow over their lives. I want them to feel better. I want them to thrive. I want them to become the source of their own wholeness, their own joy.
This is something I understand from the inside out. My adoptive mother died suddenly when I was four years old. I grew up feeling insecure, clueless, angry. I felt that something had been stolen from me that I could never get back.
I became a champion emulator. I watched other girls and later, other women to see how they moved through the world. What they wore, what they said, what they did. I was always looking for clues to How To Be and I lived in fear of being exposed as a poser, a pretender, an imposter. I never felt true to myself because I didn't even know who I actually was.
As an adult, on the outside, I had every appearance of happiness and a wonderful life. Inside, I was struggling.
I struggled in relationships - all of them, even my marriage. I couldn't stop emotionally eating and permanently lose all the weight I kept gaining and re-gaining. I binge-drank almost every weekend. I had recurring bouts of depression and anxiety. I was constantly getting myself entangled in other people's drama and constantly putting myself in debt, spending recklessly.
I couldn't reconcile the results of my life with the life I thought I should have because I believed something essential - a mother - had been taken from me too early.
By the time I reached my forties, I was sick and tired of what I was thinking and feeling about myself, but I still didn't know how to change...or even understand that I could change. I'd done so much research, so much reading, so much therapy, so much trying...
So what finally got me there? A coach.
The rest was up to me.
And this is why I became a coach, folks.
I can't wait to meet you.
My husband Paul and I live in a small, sweet house we designed and built on a small lake in Minnesota. We share our home with three dogs: Izzy, Elle (both Shih Tzu) and Rico (Pekingese) and two cats, Tucker and Kate. My career background is varied: healthcare, cosmetology, managing a gifts program and website and doing informational/promotional material design for a nonprofit religious organization, customer service for a large electronics distributor. But before all that...like my husband, I grew up on a farm where I learned to drive heavy equipment before I could barely reach the pedals. I also learned a love of animals, nature and independence.
I was adopted in to this life as an infant. When I was 40 I met my biological mother for the first time. I love her. For her, for me, for all adoptees and birthparents, I am an advocate for opening all sealed adoption records. Everyone has a birthright to their birth history Let's stop pretending we can legitimatize bad policy by keeping it in place.
I also was deeply involved with small dog rescue for many years and continue to help animal rescues with their work as I'm able. One of my dreams is to provide free coaching for animal rescue workers with compassion burn-out. Another is to give tons and tons of money toward the sanctuary care of neglected or abused animals who cannot be placed in permanent adoptive homes.
I love reading and writing and hanging out with my home tribe. I have hemi-facial spasm, which has taught and is still teaching me so much about myself. On occasion, I try to make art. I call it art. I'm currently working on my first book, title TBA.
You can ask me any questions by email. I'd love to hear from you.